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Book Review: An Ode to Life

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I am not a poem reader except when I come across something from a friend or social media. When Mr. Tajammul Kothari shared his collection of poems in a book 'An Ode to Life', I was more than happy to read and share my experience with all.

Poems might look like a simple way to convey the message, but as simple as the craft looks, it is really difficult to draft the emotions. An Ode to Life is collection of poem taking through a person's life from birth to death. It covers various emotions from being parents to ashes to also love and heartbreaks. The journey called life passes through various phases and the book talks about all those phases. 
You feel connected with many of the poems in the book as every one of us have experienced that phase or seen someone going through it. The happiness of seeing your child or waiting for your loved one. The book also touches the various phase of our life which is less talked about - Death. A goodbye to life, reflecting over what has been…

Noise

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Noise, a simple word, means simple, but for a person going through depression and frustration, noise is that extra sound which keeps coming back in your ears, again, again and again. This noise is not a word of wisdom, neither a noise of support. This noise is the sound of cribbing, torture and anger. 
And to stop it from happening, you have that feeling of breaking away. That urge to break away from things or just break away from all those who are holding us. That need to be away from this noise, away from people, away from stuff and away from constant nagging of people. Is this feeling associated with frustration? Or is it disappointment in life? Or is it fear which haunts you and you feel to be away from that? Or as simple as anger. 
A feeling of destroying is indeed a dangerous feeling as you lose control over your mind and action takes over. These actions can hurt someone or yourself, still we don't care because at that moment you are not worried about the consequences. You …

Better Tomorrow !

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The girls have some connection with their hair. Some grow them long, whereas others keep it short. As a child, I have always kept my hair short because I hated plait. Short hair means you can keep it open forever. Once I came to college, I started growing my hair, but till medium long as I felt that long hair is big maintenance. For the last 23 years, I craved for long hair. Wanted to see how I will look if I grow my hair. Being an experimental personality, I crave for change and never ever stick to one thing for a long time. 

So I started growing my hair, cutting my hair and growing again till I reach a length beyond which my hair never grew. It wasn't even that long still for me that was the longest and I crave for more long one. It never happened. I had thin hair and after growing it became thinner. I had coloured my hair so the tips were of faded color. Though I had a decent length, I never had healthy hair. Sometime it looked good, sometimes it felt dried out. The most commo…

Job Insecurity

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I have been constantly hearing about the firing policy of most of the organisation. Many employees have been Asked To Leave (ATL) or fired by the organisation for various reasons. So many people are sitting unemployed and the number is just keeps on increasing. Also, those people who are still in the organisation, don't have any security about their job. Any day, organisation will walk to an employee and will inform him that he is no longer required by the organisation. One day you make good money and the next day, sitting at home unemployed. There is no stability, no security, no understanding, nothing! Employee are no longer treated as an asset to the organisation. They are more of a liability which they will get rid of anytime if it exceeds the limit.
How a person can know when he his turn to get fired will come? How a person can judge the time he will spend in a particular organisation? In sales kind of profile, if you aren't bringing sales in first 2-3 months, the chances …

Voices in Our Life...!!!

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We all have that tiny voice in our head, which keeps interrupting our lives, especially when we are stuck somewhere. Many times this voice is created by people around us. The path we take, the choices we make are all because of the influence of others. There has never been a time when our decision was our own. Whether it is pursuing an education or work choice, these choices have always been the consequences of something happened in your life.
Do we ever make or choose something of our own? There have been movies, books, video.. All talk about only one thing, Listen to your heart! But does it ever make noise? Does it ever make it possible for us to know? That is because there is never a heart which makes the decision. It has always been our head who does the work. Some dude in some ages has created a story about heart, saying the right and brain conflicting it, but the reality is it is all created by our own brain only. The heart is a creation of our own mind. Our mind has always been …

Used to Being Poor

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When I was recently travelling in the outstation train, I had a different kind of experience. I observed the type of people travelling in the train and also their attitude. Many a time I see beggar and I wonder.. 
Some people enter into train without any ticket or tickets which are not confirmed, and take a seat which are available/empty. Basically, they hop from one seat to another till someone claims them. In night when you are sleeping, these people occupy small place next to your legs and sit there throughout the journey. As a generous human being you might allow them to sit - thinking they don't have any place to sit - but is it justified? We pay full amount for those seats and give half to someone who didn't pay single amount for those? We always believe in helping the unfortunate but are those people really the deserving one? Some of those people travel like this all the time whether it is an emergency or general travelling. For them it is a way of saving money and using…

What is Right or Wrong?

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What's right? What's wrong? How do you know that the wrong is right and right is wrong? Right and wrong might be explained in dictionary in simple terms but in real life, it takes us ages to know what is right and what is wrong.
What you think is right but for me that can be wrong. ‘Nature & Nurture’ is what separate us in our thoughts. However, our definition of right & wrong is beyond this. It is formed, molded, developed and changed by everything small or big thing happening in our life. Tiniest part of our daily life affects our definition. Hence, what I think right today can also be wrong tomorrow. 
Now question comes, if it's so uncertain and fluctuating, does it this definition matter to anybody? Or even to us? Simple answer is yes, it does! If we don't differentiate between rights or wrongs we will keep on doing what's in our mind. The necessity of creation of gods, idols, rules, regulations is so that we, human being, does not run around like headles…

Perfect World

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It is said that we do or what we believe is either told or taught to us, but is it always true or perfect? We all are raised by different people, we all follow different philosophy, we all believe different things, then why we think that what we know is the perfect or right ? What we are or who we are is by nature and nurture, what other’s are is according to their value and belief. Then the question comes to mind, 'What is true or perfect way?'
If we see an act, everyone will react to it in various ways. Some may like it; some may believe it and some will not. Our reactions will be different to others reaction at times. Even twins are not similar; when they have been give birth together by same person. Similarly how can we expect other people to be like us who are not even our twin, a complete stranger? Our view and our idea are not always right or wrong. What we believe or not, doesn’t mean others should also follow the same philosophy because we think its right.
Why it is di…

Marriage - All Glitter and No Gold

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We all at some point want to get married or actually get married but post marriage effect sometime affect us more than marriage process. I was talking to my friend who recently had arrange marriage and he was bit disappointed with life after marriage. He was wondering whether he should have gone with love marriage than arrange. Known devil is safer than unknown one. But does it make any difference whom you marry is known person or no? It doesn't! Because at the end of the day, marriage is all about ‘adjustment’!
In love marriage, even though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball game altogether. Either it's arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our likes and dislikes on others? Why can't we live with the fact that other is not me? 
We always look for perfect person, perfect rel…

Time: Every second counts!

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Despite having 'N' number of watches in my cupboard when I need one, none of them works. Time – such a precious thing and we waste it every day of our life. We are under illusion that we have lots of time whereas in reality we don’t know how much time we have. We delay, we procrastinate, we forget but time goes on and on and on. Suddenly we realize we have not just lost the time but we also lost the opportunities.   
What an irony that we acquire various gadgets or watches to show us the right time but we don’t know when is the right time. We have taken time for granted and we realize the value when it is lost. Acquiring watches will not give me the time neither it will tell me that right time of my actions. It’s our instinct, our senses which tells us the right time. Often we ignore what we feel or what our instinct tell us because we are too much deluded by our surroundings. We are people who get easily influenced, easily made to believe. Brands and Advertiser’s take this fee…

Lost a way in Pretending

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The way we act, things we like, things we do, our wants, our need.. is it what we are? or is it made by the person who we are pretending to be? You must be thinking, I am not pretending, it is who i am. But when you look back on things you did or way you behaved, it is all part of pretending to be ‘you’. When we were kids, our parents told us to play less and study more and we pretended to do so for our parent’s sake. I am not saying it’s wrong but we did because someone told us to do so. And now we are here pretending to be perfect kid to parent, perfect partner to your loved one, perfect parent for your children. We are in constant race of being perfect and in that race we start pretending to be who we are, when in reality we are nowhere close to be who we are.

We are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the end w…

Faces of Darkness

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We all have dark side; some might show it, some will hide it with what appears to be pretty side. But what this darkness is? What this darkness is all about? I came across this thought when I saw the episode of a high school series name ‘One Tree Hill’. The show is about high school and different types of people living their life. This particular episode is about a boy who is treated as nothing in the school. He is neither acknowledged nor been part of any group. He is no one in high school and he gets tired of being treated like this. He quotes, “It always hurts and hurts every single day.” In four year of high school, very few people actually spoke to him. He took many anti-depressant tablets and didn’t come to school for 2 weeks and no one realised. This episode is one of the finest episode and it makes us wonder about our past life in school/college.
When I look back or even now, I can associate with the character of the boy. Many of us go through a phase where either we are popula…

Don’t take it for GRANTED!

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Welcome to the Puppet Show!

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A very famous dialogue in Indian movie name ‘Anand’ goes as “Hum sab to rangmanch ki kathputliyan hain jiski dor us upar wale ke haathon main hai.” English translation of the dialogue is “We all are stage’s puppets whose string is in that Man’s hands.” In the movie the actor was talking about life and death and god is the one who has the control. But over a period of time, I realized it is not just about life & death. We are puppets in each phase of our life. When we were kids, our parents and teachers had the control, in college friends and again teachers had control, in office our boss has control, after marriage our life partner has a control and it goes on and on till God pull the string and we are dead.
I have read so many books and quotes where people say you are the leader or controller of your own life but how many times have we actually controlled our life? How many times jealousy has not over taken your emotions, how many times you have stopped crying over broken relation…

Don’t hold the dream tight, just chase it!

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When I was child I dreamt of being Airhostess.  When I was in college, I dreamt of being Fashion Designer. When I did my post graduation, I dreamt of being Brand Manager. Almost 4 year after my post graduation and I am jobless sitting at home thinking, ‘What was wrong with my dream that it never got fulfilled?’
Successful people who have made big in their respective stream say that ‘they always dreamt of this and now their dream is turned into reality’. Hardly anyone said that it is by chance that they end up with this or they thought of doing this and now their dream is true. So what is the deal? Was it their dream and they chased it to be true? Or was it is just by chance they tried and they got lucky?
Very vague dream everyone have in life is to earn money, lot of it. Well! It is not a dream, it is a want. So if this is want then what is the dream? Dream is a cherished desire, a desire to be something you are not currently. So earning money is not dream. Dream can be to be greatest…