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Noise

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Noise, a simple word, means simple, but for a person going through depression and frustration, noise is that extra sound which keeps coming back in your ears, again, again and again. This noise is not a word of wisdom, neither a noise of support. This noise is the sound of cribbing, torture and anger. 
And to stop it from happening, you have that feeling of breaking away. That urge to break away from things or just break away from all those who are holding us. That need to be away from this noise, away from people, away from stuff and away from constant nagging of people. Is this feeling associated with frustration? Or is it disappointment in life? Or is it fear which haunts you and you feel to be away from that? Or as simple as anger. 
A feeling of destroying is indeed a dangerous feeling as you lose control over your mind and action takes over. These actions can hurt someone or yourself, still we don't care because at that moment you are not worried about the consequences. You …

Job Insecurity

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I have been constantly hearing about the firing policy of most of the organisation. Many employees have been Asked To Leave (ATL) or fired by the organisation for various reasons. So many people are sitting unemployed and the number is just keeps on increasing. Also, those people who are still in the organisation, don't have any security about their job. Any day, organisation will walk to an employee and will inform him that he is no longer required by the organisation. One day you make good money and the next day, sitting at home unemployed. There is no stability, no security, no understanding, nothing! Employee are no longer treated as an asset to the organisation. They are more of a liability which they will get rid of anytime if it exceeds the limit.
How a person can know when he his turn to get fired will come? How a person can judge the time he will spend in a particular organisation? In sales kind of profile, if you aren't bringing sales in first 2-3 months, the chances …

Gone beyond Gone…

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My latest book obsession is Maze Runner by James Dashner and the way he has built the character of Newt who is just a teenager with quality of good leader but at the same time being everyone’s friend. This character has just brought a different perspective and made me think of him as my spirit animal that just guide me and help me with my normal daily life.
The character has nothing great or super power. He was second in command boy with a lot of calmness, knowledge and understanding. He managed people nicely and never shown anger or command to get his work done. In the book, the character is infected with a disease called Flare, which eats your brain and make you go crazy. This crazy is not mental crazy. This crazy is when a person doesn’t know what he is doing, he becomes animal who can do anything, also eat human if he is hungry. Flare starts catching up to Newt and slowly he becomes a different person who struggles a lot to hold on to his sanity. He puts an effort to be calm and re…

Domino Effect!

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We have all played with domino and we know what happens when one domino fell.. All the other domino fell one after another. Such game also applies in life. You will realise that our life is also like domino. If one good or bad domino fell, other  one fell after another. Each thing in our life is interconnected and effect on one leads to effect on all.

The reason why there are so many self-help book, concept, philosophies and studies is because they all talk about balancing your domino in such a way that fall of one doesn't lead to fall of another one. To explain the logic, let's take an example. Mr. X is working in corporate firm and living with wife and parents. One fine day, he got a real bad shouting from office due to some mistake in work. This shouting lead to frustration and anger in Mr. X this means one domino fell. He brings this at home and when his wife ask or tell him something, he gets angry at his wife. Another domino fell. Wife is taken back by such anger and sho…

Voices in Our Life...!!!

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We all have that tiny voice in our head, which keeps interrupting our lives, especially when we are stuck somewhere. Many times this voice is created by people around us. The path we take, the choices we make are all because of the influence of others. There has never been a time when our decision was our own. Whether it is pursuing an education or work choice, these choices have always been the consequences of something happened in your life.
Do we ever make or choose something of our own? There have been movies, books, video.. All talk about only one thing, Listen to your heart! But does it ever make noise? Does it ever make it possible for us to know? That is because there is never a heart which makes the decision. It has always been our head who does the work. Some dude in some ages has created a story about heart, saying the right and brain conflicting it, but the reality is it is all created by our own brain only. The heart is a creation of our own mind. Our mind has always been …

Book Review: Tough Time Never Last, But Tough People Do

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There was a time when I ended up reading self-help books one after another and this book was part of that phase. 'Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do' is a book by Robert H. Schullar. One of the motivational speaker and pastor in the USA, he is the founder of  Crystal Cathedral in Garden Grove, California and helped many people cope up with the difficult times of their life. With his teaching and his own attitude towards life, he has come up with ways through which one can be tough enough to face those tough times and come out of it as achiever.

The book is for anyone with only 120 pages to read, it covers vast topics related to one's life and focuses on scenarios like a recession in the job market, financial crises, losing making businesses and many more. He often shares his own experiences and problem for people to associate with it. He himself had gone through tough times and sharing those experiences give this book a personal touch. Some of his teaching is wort…

Used to Being Poor

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When I was recently travelling in the outstation train, I had a different kind of experience. I observed the type of people travelling in the train and also their attitude. Many a time I see beggar and I wonder.. 
Some people enter into train without any ticket or tickets which are not confirmed, and take a seat which are available/empty. Basically, they hop from one seat to another till someone claims them. In night when you are sleeping, these people occupy small place next to your legs and sit there throughout the journey. As a generous human being you might allow them to sit - thinking they don't have any place to sit - but is it justified? We pay full amount for those seats and give half to someone who didn't pay single amount for those? We always believe in helping the unfortunate but are those people really the deserving one? Some of those people travel like this all the time whether it is an emergency or general travelling. For them it is a way of saving money and using…

Perfect World

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It is said that we do or what we believe is either told or taught to us, but is it always true or perfect? We all are raised by different people, we all follow different philosophy, we all believe different things, then why we think that what we know is the perfect or right ? What we are or who we are is by nature and nurture, what other’s are is according to their value and belief. Then the question comes to mind, 'What is true or perfect way?'
If we see an act, everyone will react to it in various ways. Some may like it; some may believe it and some will not. Our reactions will be different to others reaction at times. Even twins are not similar; when they have been give birth together by same person. Similarly how can we expect other people to be like us who are not even our twin, a complete stranger? Our view and our idea are not always right or wrong. What we believe or not, doesn’t mean others should also follow the same philosophy because we think its right.
Why it is di…

Depression - Serial Killer of Life

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Few months back, I heard the devastating news that one of my favorite comedian, Robin William died rather killed himself. He was found dead in his apartment. Yet another star who took his life and reason for such suicide attempt?.... Depression!
A successful person, world renowned comedian, humanitarian, established actor, a person who has best of the world, gets chance to work with best of industry people; a person who brought smile and laughter to millions of people, couldn't bring smile and happiness to his own. He publicly stated that he is fighting excessive drinking and drug abuse but noone knew that he was also fighting depression, the serial killer who works behind the curtain and takes life of anyone - successful or poor person. 
It was indeed shocking for me to hear that how a person who appears to be so happy and fulfilled with his life is going through depression. What he felt was not enough in his life? Or what was bringing no satisfaction to his work? Even after having…

You say am Failure, I say am Survivor

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Often in life we think we are failure especially when we don't achieve what we aimed for. Many of us will take it positively and say if not this time surely next time whereas others will be depressed by their failure and they will be stuck in this black hole where they will start believing that they are failure. Obviously that is an extreme case.
Failure starts with us believing that we have failed. Once we get failure then another, eventually we will be stuck like those old radios on same odd frequency. Till the time we don't tune the right frequency we will get that disturbing sound. The key to get over failure is by starting to think as ‘survivor’. Rather than saying I am a failure, why not say I am survivor. When I use word 'Say' doesn't mean it's literal sense. See yourself as survivor; believe yourself as survivor, act like a survivor and react like a survivor.
Human's have that distinct sense of survival. We don't give up easily and that is in our…

Lost a way in Pretending

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The way we act, things we like, things we do, our wants, our need.. is it what we are? or is it made by the person who we are pretending to be? You must be thinking, I am not pretending, it is who i am. But when you look back on things you did or way you behaved, it is all part of pretending to be ‘you’. When we were kids, our parents told us to play less and study more and we pretended to do so for our parent’s sake. I am not saying it’s wrong but we did because someone told us to do so. And now we are here pretending to be perfect kid to parent, perfect partner to your loved one, perfect parent for your children. We are in constant race of being perfect and in that race we start pretending to be who we are, when in reality we are nowhere close to be who we are.

We are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the end w…

Faces of Darkness

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We all have dark side; some might show it, some will hide it with what appears to be pretty side. But what this darkness is? What this darkness is all about? I came across this thought when I saw the episode of a high school series name ‘One Tree Hill’. The show is about high school and different types of people living their life. This particular episode is about a boy who is treated as nothing in the school. He is neither acknowledged nor been part of any group. He is no one in high school and he gets tired of being treated like this. He quotes, “It always hurts and hurts every single day.” In four year of high school, very few people actually spoke to him. He took many anti-depressant tablets and didn’t come to school for 2 weeks and no one realised. This episode is one of the finest episode and it makes us wonder about our past life in school/college.
When I look back or even now, I can associate with the character of the boy. Many of us go through a phase where either we are popula…

Light at the end of the tunnel

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Don’t take it for GRANTED!

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