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A Letter to Life - #DearZindagi

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Dear Zindagi,
So many thoughts come to my mind when I look at my life, when I look at moments which we have created, the sadness we have gone through, the joy of achievement and also regret of the past. Every year I keep thinking I am still young and every birthday is a reminder that I am growing faster. The moments pass by and we feel as if we are in a trance. 
This letter is not to reflect what could have been, neither it is to talk about the roller coaster ride we had. This letter is to tell you, dear life, that you have been an amazing partner (though we may have few fights), a strict teacher (though I hated your class), a supporting boss (though we had our differences) and a silent listener (though you talked more sense). There are many instances where your twisted way of working has always intrigued me. This letter is to share what I have learned in this 20 something year we shared together (Yes, I will still not agree on the exact number). 
This life, this partner is given to ever…

Noise

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Noise, a simple word, means simple, but for a person going through depression and frustration, noise is that extra sound which keeps coming back in your ears, again, again and again. This noise is not a word of wisdom, neither a noise of support. This noise is the sound of cribbing, torture and anger. 
And to stop it from happening, you have that feeling of breaking away. That urge to break away from things or just break away from all those who are holding us. That need to be away from this noise, away from people, away from stuff and away from constant nagging of people. Is this feeling associated with frustration? Or is it disappointment in life? Or is it fear which haunts you and you feel to be away from that? Or as simple as anger. 
A feeling of destroying is indeed a dangerous feeling as you lose control over your mind and action takes over. These actions can hurt someone or yourself, still we don't care because at that moment you are not worried about the consequences. You …

Getting Rid of Writer's block

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So it was a while since I last wrote a blog.. And that's because I was going through what everyone calls it 'writer's block'. Since I had no topic in mind to write about, I thought why not I wrote about 'Writer's block'. I know it looks lame, but it is something which needs attention. And I wanted to write something to get rid of this block so why not this..!!! After writing this blog (but not posting it, I started writing more and now I want to share what I had experienced, so here it comes..)

What is this so called writer's block? How this happens? Ways to get rid of??? Normally I do Google to find the answer, but this time I wanted my brain to work out the answers. Writer's block in simple word is not writing anything and whatever you write you feel wrong or unsure about it. This happens due to many reasons like preoccupied mind, a negative feeling about writing or topic, no passion for writing, too many things happening, busy life, thoughtless …

Take Leave or Leave It

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I always believe that in a year you should take atleast 1-2 big holidays and also few weekend trips. It gives you time to breath fresh air and get out of that monotonous life called 'work'. But organisations in India, especially if it's an Indian organisation, they will treat leave as Criminal offense. As if, we are the only one responsible for work and without us organisation - Can't work.


I have worked in 4 - 5 organisation and everywhere I have faced the same problem. The senior and people at higher level feel that we are not dedicated towards our work because we take leave for ourselves. I mean, why being so judgmental? Leave, whether it's paid or unpaid, it's the right of every employee and everyone can decide when they want to take it or not. Why supervisor and their bosses think that we are breaking some rule by taking leave. If your boss is taking it, it's ok as he/she worked so hard but you.. Nahhhh! It can't be done!

In abroad, leave is a rig…

Book Review: Guy on the Sidewalk

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'Guy on the sidewalk', as the name suggests, this book is about a guy name 'Jaywardhan' aka Jay living his life in the USA and still feels like outsider decide to take the drastic step, which many NRI talk about it but never do, of shifting back to India. The title and short description of the book sounded very interesting and I was totally inclined to read 'Guy on the sidewalk by Bharath Krishna. I somewhat felt the story as recently I shifted my base from one city to another and how you feel disconnected with the city and crave to be where your heart's desire.
The story starts with Jay spending his last 2 days in the USA and finally coming closer to his most daring step of shifting to India after spending 6 years in the country. All his NRI friends are saying their final farewell, but also contradicting on Jay's decision with their own opinion of their motherland - India. As Jay sits in his flight to India, he flashes back to all those 6 years in the USA -…

Job Insecurity

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I have been constantly hearing about the firing policy of most of the organisation. Many employees have been Asked To Leave (ATL) or fired by the organisation for various reasons. So many people are sitting unemployed and the number is just keeps on increasing. Also, those people who are still in the organisation, don't have any security about their job. Any day, organisation will walk to an employee and will inform him that he is no longer required by the organisation. One day you make good money and the next day, sitting at home unemployed. There is no stability, no security, no understanding, nothing! Employee are no longer treated as an asset to the organisation. They are more of a liability which they will get rid of anytime if it exceeds the limit.
How a person can know when he his turn to get fired will come? How a person can judge the time he will spend in a particular organisation? In sales kind of profile, if you aren't bringing sales in first 2-3 months, the chances …

Domino Effect!

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We have all played with domino and we know what happens when one domino fell.. All the other domino fell one after another. Such game also applies in life. You will realise that our life is also like domino. If one good or bad domino fell, other  one fell after another. Each thing in our life is interconnected and effect on one leads to effect on all.

The reason why there are so many self-help book, concept, philosophies and studies is because they all talk about balancing your domino in such a way that fall of one doesn't lead to fall of another one. To explain the logic, let's take an example. Mr. X is working in corporate firm and living with wife and parents. One fine day, he got a real bad shouting from office due to some mistake in work. This shouting lead to frustration and anger in Mr. X this means one domino fell. He brings this at home and when his wife ask or tell him something, he gets angry at his wife. Another domino fell. Wife is taken back by such anger and sho…

Book Review: Tough Time Never Last, But Tough People Do

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There was a time when I ended up reading self-help books one after another and this book was part of that phase. 'Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do' is a book by Robert H. Schullar. One of the motivational speaker and pastor in the USA, he is the founder of  Crystal Cathedral in Garden Grove, California and helped many people cope up with the difficult times of their life. With his teaching and his own attitude towards life, he has come up with ways through which one can be tough enough to face those tough times and come out of it as achiever.

The book is for anyone with only 120 pages to read, it covers vast topics related to one's life and focuses on scenarios like a recession in the job market, financial crises, losing making businesses and many more. He often shares his own experiences and problem for people to associate with it. He himself had gone through tough times and sharing those experiences give this book a personal touch. Some of his teaching is wort…

Perfect World

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It is said that we do or what we believe is either told or taught to us, but is it always true or perfect? We all are raised by different people, we all follow different philosophy, we all believe different things, then why we think that what we know is the perfect or right ? What we are or who we are is by nature and nurture, what other’s are is according to their value and belief. Then the question comes to mind, 'What is true or perfect way?'
If we see an act, everyone will react to it in various ways. Some may like it; some may believe it and some will not. Our reactions will be different to others reaction at times. Even twins are not similar; when they have been give birth together by same person. Similarly how can we expect other people to be like us who are not even our twin, a complete stranger? Our view and our idea are not always right or wrong. What we believe or not, doesn’t mean others should also follow the same philosophy because we think its right.
Why it is di…

Marriage - All Glitter and No Gold

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We all at some point want to get married or actually get married but post marriage effect sometime affect us more than marriage process. I was talking to my friend who recently had arrange marriage and he was bit disappointed with life after marriage. He was wondering whether he should have gone with love marriage than arrange. Known devil is safer than unknown one. But does it make any difference whom you marry is known person or no? It doesn't! Because at the end of the day, marriage is all about ‘adjustment’!
In love marriage, even though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball game altogether. Either it's arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our likes and dislikes on others? Why can't we live with the fact that other is not me? 
We always look for perfect person, perfect rel…

Time: Every second counts!

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Despite having 'N' number of watches in my cupboard when I need one, none of them works. Time – such a precious thing and we waste it every day of our life. We are under illusion that we have lots of time whereas in reality we don’t know how much time we have. We delay, we procrastinate, we forget but time goes on and on and on. Suddenly we realize we have not just lost the time but we also lost the opportunities.   
What an irony that we acquire various gadgets or watches to show us the right time but we don’t know when is the right time. We have taken time for granted and we realize the value when it is lost. Acquiring watches will not give me the time neither it will tell me that right time of my actions. It’s our instinct, our senses which tells us the right time. Often we ignore what we feel or what our instinct tell us because we are too much deluded by our surroundings. We are people who get easily influenced, easily made to believe. Brands and Advertiser’s take this fee…

You say am Failure, I say am Survivor

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Often in life we think we are failure especially when we don't achieve what we aimed for. Many of us will take it positively and say if not this time surely next time whereas others will be depressed by their failure and they will be stuck in this black hole where they will start believing that they are failure. Obviously that is an extreme case.
Failure starts with us believing that we have failed. Once we get failure then another, eventually we will be stuck like those old radios on same odd frequency. Till the time we don't tune the right frequency we will get that disturbing sound. The key to get over failure is by starting to think as ‘survivor’. Rather than saying I am a failure, why not say I am survivor. When I use word 'Say' doesn't mean it's literal sense. See yourself as survivor; believe yourself as survivor, act like a survivor and react like a survivor.
Human's have that distinct sense of survival. We don't give up easily and that is in our…

Lost a way in Pretending

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The way we act, things we like, things we do, our wants, our need.. is it what we are? or is it made by the person who we are pretending to be? You must be thinking, I am not pretending, it is who i am. But when you look back on things you did or way you behaved, it is all part of pretending to be ‘you’. When we were kids, our parents told us to play less and study more and we pretended to do so for our parent’s sake. I am not saying it’s wrong but we did because someone told us to do so. And now we are here pretending to be perfect kid to parent, perfect partner to your loved one, perfect parent for your children. We are in constant race of being perfect and in that race we start pretending to be who we are, when in reality we are nowhere close to be who we are.

We are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the end w…

Faces of Darkness

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We all have dark side; some might show it, some will hide it with what appears to be pretty side. But what this darkness is? What this darkness is all about? I came across this thought when I saw the episode of a high school series name ‘One Tree Hill’. The show is about high school and different types of people living their life. This particular episode is about a boy who is treated as nothing in the school. He is neither acknowledged nor been part of any group. He is no one in high school and he gets tired of being treated like this. He quotes, “It always hurts and hurts every single day.” In four year of high school, very few people actually spoke to him. He took many anti-depressant tablets and didn’t come to school for 2 weeks and no one realised. This episode is one of the finest episode and it makes us wonder about our past life in school/college.
When I look back or even now, I can associate with the character of the boy. Many of us go through a phase where either we are popula…

Light at the end of the tunnel

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