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Used to Being Poor

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When I was recently travelling in the outstation train, I had a different kind of experience. I observed the type of people travelling in the train and also their attitude. Many a time I see beggar and I wonder..  Some people enter into train without any ticket or tickets which are not confirmed, and take a seat which are available/empty. Basically, they hop from one seat to another till someone claims them. In night when you are sleeping, these people occupy small place next to your legs and sit there throughout the journey. As a generous human being you might allow them to sit - thinking they don't have any place to sit - but is it justified? We pay full amount for those seats and give half to someone who didn't pay single amount for those? We always believe in helping the unfortunate but are those people really the deserving one? Some of those people travel like this all the time whether it is an emergency or general travelling. For them it is a way of saving money and

Perfect World

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It is said that we do or what we believe is either told or taught to us, but is it always true or perfect? We all are raised by different people, we all follow different philosophy, we all believe different things, then why we think that what we know is the perfect or right ? What we are or who we are is by nature and nurture, what other’s are is according to their value and belief. Then the question comes to mind, 'What is true or perfect way?' If we see an act, everyone will react to it in various ways. Some may like it; some may believe it and some will not. Our reactions will be different to others reaction at times. Even twins are not similar; when they have been give birth together by same person. Similarly how can we expect other people to be like us who are not even our twin, a complete stranger? Our view and our idea are not always right or wrong. What we believe or not, doesn’t mean others should also follow the same philosophy because we think its right. Wh

Marriage - All Glitter and No Gold

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We all at some point want to get married or actually get married but post marriage effect sometime affect us more than marriage process. I was talking to my friend who recently had arrange marriage and he was bit disappointed with life after marriage. He was wondering whether he should have gone with love marriage than arrange. Known devil is safer than unknown one. But does it make any difference whom you marry is known person or no? It doesn't! Because at the end of the day, marriage is all about ‘adjustment’! In love marriage, even though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball game altogether. Either it's arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our likes and dislikes on others? Why can't we live with the fact that other is not me?  We always look for perfect person, p

Welcome to the Puppet Show!

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A very famous dialogue in Indian movie name ‘Anand’ goes as “Hum sab to rangmanch ki kathputliyan hain jiski dor us upar wale ke haathon main hai.” English translation of the dialogue is “We all are stage’s puppets whose string is in that Man’s hands.” In the movie the actor was talking about life and death and god is the one who has the control. But over a period of time, I realized it is not just about life & death. We are puppets in each phase of our life. When we were kids, our parents and teachers had the control, in college friends and again teachers had control, in office our boss has control, after marriage our life partner has a control and it goes on and on till God pull the string and we are dead. I have read so many books and quotes where people say you are the leader or controller of your own life but how many times have we actually controlled our life? How many times jealousy has not over taken your emotions, how many times you have stopped crying over broken re

So called Adjustment

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It is said that Indians are born to adjust. Adjust with the infrastructure, adjust with polluted air, adjust with crowded cities, adjust with corrupted policies and what not. But does this mean we adjust to each and everything? Does this mean we forget who or what we are and just do what others what? From childhood I hated the fact that I took birth as a girl. Since I was kid I saw girls sacrificing their career, life, hobbies all because of others. Being the girl they were given the burden of the family. Women’s were treated as if the whole world is not their shoulder and they don’t have time for themselves as they were too caught with others. I always wanted to be boy not just because they didn’t had the household responsibility on their shoulder but for the only fact that they had freedom to do what they wanted from their life. As I grew up I kept on wondering why such difference is. Why boy can do what they want and girls have to seek permission? I remember I used to fight wit