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Noise

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Noise, a simple word, means simple, but for a person going through depression and frustration, noise is that extra sound which keeps coming back in your ears, again, again and again. This noise is not a word of wisdom, neither a noise of support. This noise is the sound of cribbing, torture and anger.  And to stop it from happening, you have that feeling of breaking away. That urge to break away from things or just break away from all those who are holding us. That need to be away from this noise, away from people, away from stuff and away from constant nagging of people. Is this feeling associated with frustration? Or is it disappointment in life? Or is it fear which haunts you and you feel to be away from that? Or as simple as anger.  A feeling of destroying is indeed a dangerous feeling as you lose control over your mind and action takes over. These actions can hurt someone or yourself, still we don't care because at that moment you are not worried about the consequenc

Job Insecurity

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I have been constantly hearing about the firing policy of most of the organisation. Many employees have been Asked To Leave (ATL) or fired by the organisation for various reasons. So many people are sitting unemployed and the number is just keeps on increasing. Also, those people who are still in the organisation, don't have any security about their job. Any day, organisation will walk to an employee and will inform him that he is no longer required by the organisation. One day you make good money and the next day, sitting at home unemployed. There is no stability, no security, no understanding, nothing! Employee are no longer treated as an asset to the organisation. They are more of a liability which they will get rid of anytime if it exceeds the limit. How a person can know when he his turn to get fired will come? How a person can judge the time he will spend in a particular organisation? In sales kind of profile, if you aren't bringing sales in first 2-3 months,

Gone beyond Gone…

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My latest book obsession is Maze Runner by J ames Dashner  and the way he has built the character of Newt who is just a teenager with quality of good leader but at the same time being everyone’s friend. This character has just brought a different perspective and made me think of him as my spirit animal that just guide me and help me with my normal daily life. Newt played by Thomas Brodie-Sangster in the Maze Runner movie The character has nothing great or super power. He was second in command boy with a lot of calmness, knowledge and understanding. He managed people nicely and never shown anger or command to get his work done. In the book, the character is infected with a disease called Flare, which eats your brain and make you go crazy. This crazy is not mental crazy. This crazy is when a person doesn’t know what he is doing, he becomes animal who can do anything, also eat human if he is hungry. Flare starts catching up to Newt and slowly he becomes a different person who s

Voices in Our Life...!!!

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We all have that tiny voice in our head, which keeps interrupting our lives, especially when we are stuck somewhere. Many times this voice is created by people around us. The path we take, the choices we make are all because of the influence of others. There has never been a time when our decision was our own. Whether it is pursuing an education or work choice, these choices have always been the consequences of something happened in your life. Do we ever make or choose something of our own? There have been movies, books, video.. All talk about only one thing, Listen to your heart! But does it ever make noise? Does it ever make it possible for us to know? That is because there is never a heart which makes the decision. It has always been our head who does the work. Some dude in some ages has created a story about heart, saying the right and brain conflicting it, but the reality is it is all created by our own brain only. The heart is a creation of our own mind. Our mind has alway

Easy to Give Up, Hard to Continue

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Being in no target oriented job, I never  realise  what it means to achieve sales figure or target. A recent entry to sales make me realise that it's is indeed a big achievement to get closer to your target. Being non sales person, I don't take pressure of achieving target or getting prospective customers . I see people around me and I see people struggling hard to get prospects and business.  1 week went - no prospect, 2 weeks went - no prospect. 1 month went - no prospect. Suddenly we are hit with the fact that it's not working. Am I doing something wrong? Am I not sounding good? Am I calling wrong people? We keep on wondering what is the thing which we are doing wrong that we can improve it and get prospective customers. We consult, we talk, we do research, we study, we do everything possible and still 1 week went - no prospect.  Nothing happens. No increase in numbers, no positive outcome.. This leads to conclusion that we are not good. We should give up. It&#

You say am Failure, I say am Survivor

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Often in life we think we are failure especially when we don't achieve what we aimed for. Many of us will take it positively and say if not this time surely next time whereas others will be depressed by their failure and they will be stuck in this black hole where they will start believing that they are failure. Obviously that is an extreme case. Failure starts with us believing that we have failed. Once we get failure then another, eventually we will be stuck like those old radios on same odd frequency. Till the time we don't tune the right frequency we will get that disturbing sound. The key to get over failure is by starting to think as ‘survivor’. Rather than saying I am a failure, why not say I am survivor. When I use word 'Say' doesn't mean it's literal sense. See yourself as survivor; believe yourself as survivor, act like a survivor and react like a survivor. Human's have that distinct sense of survival. We don't give up easily and that

Light at the end of the tunnel

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When I am writing this blog, personally I am in the dark tunnel of my life and I am search of that light which will tell me that the tunnel is ending. We all go through a phase where everything is just not right and things are going bad. In my case, I am going through bad health problems, career is in danger, missing out on my passion and my most prized possession is destroyed. And now I am wondering what else can go bad? What is a thing in my life which is in danger now? In such phase the one question we ask everyone, even god is ‘Why me?’ and I asked the same question. Normally I have answer to my own question but this time I am clueless. I asked this question and then I looked around and I realised, it’s not only me who is asking that question. Many of us are bound to be in this tunnel and we wonder why me? Everyone of us experience a down side in life, a person sitting at home jobless for 9 months, a person is looking for partner for marriage and unable to find since 5

Book Review: Six Suspects

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‘Six Suspects’ and murderer is Writer! First time in my life it happened that I left a book when I completed 90% reading it. I started reading ‘Six Suspect by Vikas Swarup’ recommended by my cousin as NEVER TO READ book. I thought let me give it try as how bad can it get. And believe me, I regret not listening to my cousin till date. This book talks about a murder at a party where police have six suspects, one of which is murderer. All six suspects have stories of their own, covered with controversies and drama. Be it tribal man who comes to city to retrieve an object or U.S citizen who comes to India to marry a pen friend. The stories are inspired by news channels and gossip column of daily newspaper. There is nothing new in this book. The Writer tried what Chetan Bhagat does with his book, make it sound 'Bollywood'ish. I am just praying that no director should think of making a movie based on this book. Maybe I am bit harsh with this book but there was nothing im

Live and Let Others Live

Sometime in life you meet people who don't live their own life and don't let you live yours. Constant nagging, constant cribbing and constant mental torture will obviously physic anyone. We live our life thinking others can't affect us. We are in the illusion that our life is controlled by us. The truth is that our life is never in our hand. We try to be happy, we try to reach the top and their are these factor, people who will pull you down again and again. These people can be your friends, your cousins or your parents. They will purposely or unconsciously will lead to your failure. You try to concentrate and focus on what you want but you keep on falling down. Your confidence and self respect is low. You doubt your capabilities. You perform bad because of the influence of these people. Then I thought, why? Why these people don't want me to see happy or achieve something? Why they want me to fail? Is it because they expect others things from you? Or they want you

Yet Another Step..

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Life is ever changing. Each day we think of taking new step ahead or we take back the step we took before. Each moment of life, we analysed, we get happy or we get sad, we relish or we regret. Every moment of our life is a step, whether it's taking up new job, joining a college, getting married or buying a house.. all this is a step taken ahead in your life. At the same time, there are few steps which we wish to take back. Divorce, Leaving a job, staying in a particular city and so on. It is said that life moves on, if one day is bad doesn't mean whole life is bad.. but when you are in dark all you see is darkness. If a person losses his/her job, they wont see this as an opportunity to do something else. If a person gets another job, he will think that it is a new step but that job might worth taking. Step towards happiness are memorable step in our life. All those happy moments.. falling in love, finding a friends, time spent with family.. all these steps brings a new s

2013 here I am !!!

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So yet another blog on New Year. Quite late this time but atleast I Made it before the New year ends! This year was like a rollercoaster ride. There were happy and sad moments. As usual this year new adventure started with new job and new life. Never imagined that so much can happen in 1 year. 2012 started on bad note by losing one of my best friend. I still miss her on many occasions. May her soul rest in peace. This year was also year of no job satisfaction. Constant changes and peoples behaviour made it difficult to learn or grow. At the same time, this year was also full of trip. Short trip or long trip, every destination was amazing and full of memories. February month was filled with short trip to Alibag and again short trip to goa. Then in April, we cousins went to Mahabaleshwar. April was month of hometown, Rajasthan. Udaipur, City of Lakes welcomed us. June was for family and 50th Anniversary celebration of my Grand Father and Mother in Satara. After that comes the week

Hold on... It's not over!

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There are moments in life when we want to give up, there are moments where we feel like a loser and there are moments where we feel that we have achieved nothing. Two kinds of situations normally makes us feel like that. 1) When we have not got success. We always got failure or have to adjust with whatever is available. 2) When we reach high success and then suddenly falls down. First situation can be tackled as we learn to grow and make ourselves more flexible and accept the situation. We feel sad but we don't have any past to compare with or judge ourselves. Even a small success can bring happiness and satisfaction. In such situation we just try to focus and hone our skills. Whereas in second situation, it becomes difficult for us to come back to real life. We are stuck with a star image. We start comparing, we start regretting, we start feeling stupid. We blame others or ourselves for decision which lead to failure. It becomes difficult for us to accept failure. We think o