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Book review: A Time to Kill

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I have heard a lot about John Grisham but never read his books. So after lot of waiting, I finally picked up one of his book name ‘A Time to Kill’. Set in early 1980’s in Clonton town in Ford County, Mississippi, a black man name Carl Lee Hailey is convicted for murdering 2 white boys for raping his daughter. Two white boys kidnapped Taniya Hailey, a 10 year old black girl and gang raped her, abused her, beaten her and tried to kill her. In an attempt to kill her, she was found by workers and admitted into hospital. The county sheriff who is black find these two boys and they are put into trial. As the date of trial comes near, the father of the girl, Carl Lee Hailey carefully plan and kill those white boys in the court room. Carl Lee Hailey is convicted and he hire Jake Brigance, a young lawyer who practice law in the office provided by his retired but rich senior Lucien Wilbanks, to fight his case. This case turns out to be the biggest case of time and the whole state and nearby

Easy to Give Up, Hard to Continue

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Being in no target oriented job, I never  realise  what it means to achieve sales figure or target. A recent entry to sales make me realise that it's is indeed a big achievement to get closer to your target. Being non sales person, I don't take pressure of achieving target or getting prospective customers . I see people around me and I see people struggling hard to get prospects and business.  1 week went - no prospect, 2 weeks went - no prospect. 1 month went - no prospect. Suddenly we are hit with the fact that it's not working. Am I doing something wrong? Am I not sounding good? Am I calling wrong people? We keep on wondering what is the thing which we are doing wrong that we can improve it and get prospective customers. We consult, we talk, we do research, we study, we do everything possible and still 1 week went - no prospect.  Nothing happens. No increase in numbers, no positive outcome.. This leads to conclusion that we are not good. We should give up. It&#

Book Review: Who will cry when you die

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One of the world renowned author who wrote best selling book 'The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari', Robin Sharma came up with another book name 'Who will cry when you die'. Though the name suggest something els e (atleast that's what I thought), this book is completely self-help book. The author shares 101 ways to make your life happy and worthwhile. Author starts with pointing out that, was our life fully lived? If we die today will there be any regret? A way to live and have less regrets when we die. These are 101 ways in which one can improve his or her life and get over those issues which troubles our daily life and people around you. If you have thoroughly read 'The Monk who sold his Ferrari', this book will be short recap of what we read, what we understood and what we agreed. Many tips / ways are picked up from his earlier book.  For people who are reading this book directly without reading 'The Monk who sold his Ferrari', there are many g

Marriage - All Glitter and No Gold

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We all at some point want to get married or actually get married but post marriage effect sometime affect us more than marriage process. I was talking to my friend who recently had arrange marriage and he was bit disappointed with life after marriage. He was wondering whether he should have gone with love marriage than arrange. Known devil is safer than unknown one. But does it make any difference whom you marry is known person or no? It doesn't! Because at the end of the day, marriage is all about ‘adjustment’! In love marriage, even though you know the person, staying with them under one roof is different ball game altogether. Either it's arranged or love, formula of good relation lies in adjusting and accepting. Most of the time, problems in relation arise due to expectations. We want other to be like us or do things we like. Why enforce our likes and dislikes on others? Why can't we live with the fact that other is not me?  We always look for perfect person, p

Time: Every second counts!

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Despite having 'N' number of watches in my cupboard when I need one, none of them works. Time – such a precious thing and we waste it every day of our life. We are under illusion that we have lots of time whereas in reality we don’t know how much time we have. We delay, we procrastinate, we forget but time goes on and on and on. Suddenly we realize we have not just lost the time but we also lost the opportunities.    What an irony that we acquire various gadgets or watches to show us the right time but we don’t know when is the right time. We have taken time for granted and we realize the value when it is lost. Acquiring watches will not give me the time neither it will tell me that right time of my actions. It’s our instinct, our senses which tells us the right time. Often we ignore what we feel or what our instinct tell us because we are too much deluded by our surroundings. We are people who get easily influenced, easily made to believe. Brands and Advertiser’s take t

You say am Failure, I say am Survivor

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Often in life we think we are failure especially when we don't achieve what we aimed for. Many of us will take it positively and say if not this time surely next time whereas others will be depressed by their failure and they will be stuck in this black hole where they will start believing that they are failure. Obviously that is an extreme case. Failure starts with us believing that we have failed. Once we get failure then another, eventually we will be stuck like those old radios on same odd frequency. Till the time we don't tune the right frequency we will get that disturbing sound. The key to get over failure is by starting to think as ‘survivor’. Rather than saying I am a failure, why not say I am survivor. When I use word 'Say' doesn't mean it's literal sense. See yourself as survivor; believe yourself as survivor, act like a survivor and react like a survivor. Human's have that distinct sense of survival. We don't give up easily and that

Book Review: Dork – The Incredible Adventures of Robin 'Einstein' Varghese (TIAOREV)

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So there is American version of ‘Dork Diaries’ which involve Wimpy Kid and there is Indian version of ‘Dork’ created by Sidin Vadukut. The earlier one is for kids and later is for adult. But when it comes to story and humour, I think Indian Dork is far behind the American Dork. I picked up this book from a family friend and thought, ‘After disappointing books by many Indian Author (especially those who are pass out from IIM & IIT’s) let’s give Sidin Vadukut a chance to impress. I was not aware of his status as a blog writer and neither his background. But after 2 pages into the story and I knew he must be IIM or IIT grad. I must say Indian education board needs to add an extra campus course in these colleges about ‘Book Writing’ & ‘Story Development’.  Dork TIAOREV (Too big name to write) is yet another boring story of Robin ‘Einstein’ (dunno why  in the hell he is named Einstein with no story or connection to the name or character) Varghese, an average MBA cum engineer

Force of Yoda and Star Wars

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Last weekend I spent my time watching the Star Wars series. Star Wars is one of the greatest movies of all time. One should watch it, not just for the marvel of cinematography and effects, but also for the character like Yoda and learning of a Jedi. Jedi is like a soldier who brings balance in the Republic, they are the peacemaker. In other words, Jedi is like Auror from Harry Potter, warriors, FBI or Ninjas. They are trained to understand the force and save the Republic from the Dark Force. What excites me more is the learning from the movie about The Dark Side, Force around us and our emotions like Anger, fear and pain. The character which amazes me is that of Yoda , he is one of the greatest Jedi of all time, his words and his understanding of Force is very true even in today’s world. The movie talk about Force, it is defined as energy which comes from everything around you - people, tree, flowers, water or even air. It is defined as “It surrounds us and penetra

Book Review: The Zahir

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After ‘The Alchemist’ by Paulo Coelho, ‘The Zahir’ was my second book. The book is written from the point of view of unnamed celebrity author who talks about his life and his search and his Zahir, a blinding obsession, in the book. The author lives in Paris with his wife Esther, a war correspondent. His life is turned upside down when he finds out that his wife is missing. 2 years goes and there is still no sign of Esther. The unanswered questions and unknown reason of disappearance leads to pain and suffering. Author to release his pain and writes a book about love. This book brings Mikhail, a young boy from Kazakhstan, to meet the author who helps him with the whereabouts of his wife. The book talks about how he rediscovers himself, the energy of love and also falls in love with French actress. There are various talks between Esther and author which are thought provoking. The topics triggering my brain waves were about happiness and sadness in people’s eye. How a daily li

Lost a way in Pretending

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The way we act, things we like, things we do, our wants, our need.. is it what we are? or is it made by the person who we are pretending to be? You must be thinking, I am not pretending, it is who i am. But when you look back on things you did or way you behaved, it is all part of pretending to be ‘you’. When we were kids, our parents told us to play less and study more and we pretended to do so for our parent’s sake. I am not saying it’s wrong but we did because someone told us to do so. And now we are here pretending to be perfect kid to parent, perfect partner to your loved one, perfect parent for your children. We are in constant race of being perfect and in that race we start pretending to be who we are, when in reality we are nowhere close to be who we are. We are always in search of happiness, success or just people. This search makes us empty inside and to fill this emptiness we take up something else. We chase money and end up being in job which we don’t like but in the

Faces of Darkness

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We all have dark side; some might show it, some will hide it with what appears to be pretty side. But what this darkness is? What this darkness is all about? I came across this thought when I saw the episode of a high school series name ‘One Tree Hill’. The show is about high school and different types of people living their life. This particular episode is about a boy who is treated as nothing in the school. He is neither acknowledged nor been part of any group. He is no one in high school and he gets tired of being treated like this. He quotes, “It always hurts and hurts every single day.” In four year of high school, very few people actually spoke to him. He took many anti-depressant tablets and didn’t come to school for 2 weeks and no one realised. This episode is one of the finest episode and it makes us wonder about our past life in school/college. When I look back or even now, I can associate with the character of the boy. Many of us go through a phase where either we are

Light at the end of the tunnel

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When I am writing this blog, personally I am in the dark tunnel of my life and I am search of that light which will tell me that the tunnel is ending. We all go through a phase where everything is just not right and things are going bad. In my case, I am going through bad health problems, career is in danger, missing out on my passion and my most prized possession is destroyed. And now I am wondering what else can go bad? What is a thing in my life which is in danger now? In such phase the one question we ask everyone, even god is ‘Why me?’ and I asked the same question. Normally I have answer to my own question but this time I am clueless. I asked this question and then I looked around and I realised, it’s not only me who is asking that question. Many of us are bound to be in this tunnel and we wonder why me? Everyone of us experience a down side in life, a person sitting at home jobless for 9 months, a person is looking for partner for marriage and unable to find since 5

Don’t take it for GRANTED!

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So many things in our life, we take it for granted till the time we realise how important it is. I came to this realisation when I took my health for granted and it hit me back at the wrong time. Result – I am missing the thing I love the most. So while sitting at home doing nothing and missing on big fun, I saw that so many of us do this. We take things for granted, we take people for granted, we take their emotions for granted and what not. In our journey called life, we have started talking it lightly and made it complicated. When we can’t solve these complications created by us, we think of ending it. I have heard of cases where people have taken their life for granted and ended it because of something or someone. A happy going guy suddenly jumps from his room on 11 th floor; a struggling actress ends her life by hanging herself. I try and try but fail to understand, how one can take their life for granted and decides to end it? Do they think of consequences, do they think